On the heels of my posts for “How to Go TV-Free for your Kids” I want to say a few words about screens that monopolize parents’ time. In today’s culture staying connected via the Internet is fast becoming an addiction that everyone shares. The Internet has much to offer from online shopping (less errands with the kids!) to blogging. It is an endless source of inspiration for me, personally, as a mom and as a crafter.
But, it can get in the way. Using the computer disconnects a person from children or spouses nearbye and reconnects their focus in a powerful way. Children instinctually feel your withdrawel.
I made myself a rule: the computer is off when the kids are awake. That said, my two children do take an hour long rest time midday, which gives me a mental break and allows me to check my email. I came to this hard and fast rule when I decided to stop allowing my then 4 year old to play computer games. I realized that I needed to be an example to her, choosing to connect and live life, rather than dream it away online.
I find that if I try to do something quickly online while they’re awake, I just get irritated when they interrupt me. They immediately seem to “need” me when I sit down in front of the computer. I feel they can sense that I’ve “left the house” so to speak, and they want me back! And, yes, I get more done and have more fun with them too, by following this rule. Since my kids go to sleep at 7pm, I still have lots of time to catch up and connect after bedtime.
It’s been a year now since I adopted this rule. I no longer feel the urge to check my email at random times during the day, which is a welcome change. I feel much more fully present with my kids, enjoying the “now” of our days. I’ve also noticed that I’m using the computer less and less during “sanctioned” times. I used to go to the computer like clockwork as soon as the children were tucked away. Now I often ask myself, “Do I really want to check email/blogs, or would I rather sew, read, shower, talk to my husband, etc.” More often now, when I take the time to think about it, I do choose something else. And, it feels good!
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