What is it like to give birth in an American hospital? Birth plans and doulas aside, how will you feel and how will things go when the time arrives? For pregnant mamas-to-be who are aiming for a natural, unmedicated birth, will you succeed in reaching that goal?
“Michelle McSweeney in New York City had originally wanted an unmedicated birth but gave in to an epidural because ‘I couldn’t get up anyway,’ she recalls. ‘I’ve got these belts around my gigantic stomach, I’ve got a catheter, I’ve got a thing on my finger, I’ve got an IV in my arm. I felt like a science project.’” With this vignette author Jennifer Block closes her discussion of “The Machine” (aka the electronic fetal monitor) in her book Pushed: The Painful Truth about Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care (pg. 35-36).
Michelle McSweeney’s simple confession reveals the heart of the matter – whatever your intentions the hospital has a way of making you feel like a thing, not a person. Women are left alone in a room, confined to their beds not with straps, but with multiple electronic devices designed to do the job of an actual birth attendant. Routine IV’s, electronic fetal monitoring (EFM), and catheters are not indicated by medicine, nor are they part of routine maternity care in many other developed nations. In sharp contrast, “The World Health Organization recommends intermittent monitoring with either a fetoscope or a handheld Doppler ultrasound, a rechargeable cordless device that allows the laboring woman freedom of movement” (pg 35).
After reading Michelle’s vignette I understood, really for the first time, why friends of mine who had planned unmedicated births had instead chosen an epidural when faced with labor in a hospital. Dehumanized, a cog in the machine, the laboring woman is faced with the decision to pursue something natural and good in an environment simply not designed to support it. Besides the additional health risks, how is an epidural very different from what she’s already subjected herself to?
- She is already separated from her labor – the nurse, even her partner, look to “The Machine” to observe how labor is progressing. If more information is desired, she receives another vaginal exam. The doctor might visit her to tell her how she is doing. What does she know about it?
- She is already immobilized – if she wants to walk, she must get permission to take off the EFM belt and someone needs to push along the IV poll as she strolls the hospital corridors. Discouraged, she simply attempts to stay active in her room. But, the nurse cannot return constantly to adjust the EFM belt, which is disturbed by her motions. Back in bed.
- She is already birthing on their terms – they tell her what she may drink (ice chips), what she may eat (nothing), what she must wear and where she can be. She feels unspoken pressure to not be too loud, ask too much or take too long. She may discover that the nurse has not even read her birth plan, and cannot possibly do so because she is truly too busy.
I had read when pregnant with my first baby about how hard it is for a woman to give birth naturally in the hospital. I heard from mother after mother that she would do things differently next time. Some suggested hanging a sign on the door “Do not offer an Epidural.” But, most said that if I wanted a natural birth I should find somewhere else to have one. I can see now how little that sign would have accomplished.
It doesn’t have to be like that. It isn’t like that in countless other parts of the world. Imagine instead that you are supported by the constant presence of an expert birth assitant. She knows you because she’s spent an hour with you every month (and more often that that lately) for your prenatal appointments. Of course she knows your birth plan! She also knows what scares you about labor. She knows your back-up plan. She’s not surprised when you play Norah Jones. She doesn’t care that you aren’t wearing a hospital gown. She reminds you of ideas you’ve discussed for managing labor pain when you’re brain’s too foggy to think. In fact, she’s joined by a doula with whom she works regularly and whose hands know exactly how to apply effective counter-pressure. When you ask her to check on your progress, she does a vaginal exam while you’re resting between contractions. When your progress slows, she doesn’t threaten you with Pitocin. When you want to move, she moves too so she can listen to baby without slowing you down. She has an underwater doppler so you can labor in the tub and when you push the baby out in the birth tub, she’s as estatic as you are! Congratulations, mama, you did beautifully, and you did this yourself! Hold your baby, nurse your baby, the rest of us can wait.
Related posts:
- The Business of Being Born
- The Best Prep for a Non-Medicated Birth
- Why & How to Find a Midwife or Doula
- Who will witness your baby’s birth?
- Is the Birth Plan a Joke?
Tags: birth plan, childbirth, midwife, natural birth


Thank you for the birthing advice. As much as I would love to have a home birth with a midwife, my husband & I have compromised and decided to go to our hospital instead. I know it sounds silly based on all that we know about interventions at hospitals, but I too will try to have a natural birth there. It’s covered by our insurance (a midwife in our area would be $5000+), I have an awesome-openminded doctor, and my husband is overly concerned about my safety and would feel more comfortable at a hospital (he has NOT read my birthing books yet!). Luckily, I have a fabulous massage therapist who is also a doula and a fellow yoga instructor. With her, my doctor, and my husband (who will be more educated by then!) on my side, I’m hoping & praying that the nursing staff will back off from pushing IVs, drugs, and the constant monitoring and instead trust that I know my body well. I know the liability is the driving force behind these persuasions so I’m going to try laboring at home as long as possible. We’ll be attending a birthing class at my hospital & taking a labor room tour soon, and I’ll be armed with tons of questions. Other than that, I don’t know what else we can do and I’m just trusting that it will go well! Any other advice would be appreciated…
Brandy, Thanks for your comment. I really appreciate you bringing this up, because I realize the post can be quite discouraging. It’s hard to balance sharing true, but hard information with not wanting to be negative. In your situation, I can understand why the hospital birth is your plan. You’ve taken great steps (doula, open-minded doctor, early labor at home) to protecting your natural birth. In addition, I encourage you to find out how you can sign-off to avoid interventions that you don’t want. For example, if you want to labor without IV or EFM and/or you want to be able to eat/drink as desired in the hospital, be upfront with the hospital about those desires at your hospital tour. They will tell you that IV/EFM is required. Ask them what form you have to sign to go without. The hospital doesn’t generally offer up these forms, but if you are insistant they DO have them. Ask if you can have a nurse who will monitor the baby with a handheld instrument. Just, in general, realize that you are the CUSTOMER. You are paying THEM to support you in your birth. Be sure that you (and your husband) are well-educated about risks/benefits of interventions (“The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth” is a great resource) beforehand, so you can call those shots at the birth without being cowed by “This is the way we do things.” Good luck!
Rachel, thank you so much! I will check out “The Thinking Woman’s Guide…” and follow up on your suggestions. I feel that you gave me some power back and I’m not even in the situation yet! Take care…
I love this article and had the similar feelings going into my first birth. I work for a large company so “had” to go the hospital route or pay out of pocket. Aditionaly, some minor risk factors made my husband (and I’ll admit myself) a bit leary of going 100% natural in home, which based on statistics and great books/films such as “Birthing from Within” and “The Business of Being Born” is the ONLY way to avoid an intervention. Even many home births still involve at least an IV. I’m here to tell you, I did it. I fought the system and won an entirely 100% natural birth in a hospital enviroment! My beautifull daughter was born 09/30/09 and is asleep in my arms as I write this now in the wee hours, from my phone. I’ve had so many people already ask me how I managed it that I’ve decided to try writing my story and getting it out to the world. If my story inspires or empowers just one mother to succeed in the same way I have, it will be worth it. I started a blog and am slowly getting pieces up, the complete story to come soon. Please check it out, http://www.dkgraham.com/babyblog, and know it’s difficult to achieve in this country but that it’s worth it. It CAN be done, believe in your strength and ability as a woman to birth!