Posts Tagged ‘childbirth’

What’s a Good Reason to Induce?

Thursday, January 20th, 2011

What’s a good reason to induce and what’s really NOT?  Today I’ll be sharing thoughts from Jennifer Bock’s excellent exposé, Pushed: The Painful Truth about Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care, as well as opinions offered by Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein via an article “Choosing to Wait” in Fit Pregnancy magazine, Sept 2009.  Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein produced the film The Business of Being Born and have since published a new book Your Best Birth.

Gary Hankins, MD, chair of the obstetric practice committee of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) says he never induces for convenience.  “And induction absent a solid indication absolutely increases all risk to mom and baby” (Block, pg. 8).  So maybe you agree.  You don’t want to induce.  Considering that the induction rate is growing by leaps and bounds, waiting for spontaneous birth may not be as easy as you’d assume.  Educating yourself about what constitutes a “solid indication” for induction may help you choose a good caregiver or at least bolster your resolve if your doctor pressures you at some point to an unnecessary induction.

Pressures?  Do doctors really pressure women into induction?  Author Jennifer Block shares the stories of several women who were induced, all for different reasons.  Interestingly, all three women report being encouraged to induce earlier on in their pregnancies. Here’s what one woman experienced:

“It started at 39 weeks,” says Hilton.  “She said, ‘When do you want to be induced?’ I said, ‘I don’t.’ She said, ‘Well, I’ll give you one more week and that’s it.’”  At her 40-week appointment, Hilton says her OB asked, “So are you ready to have a baby?” and offered to schedule her the following day (Block, pg. 16).

Unfortunately, this kind of attitude is all to common with doctors, for whom an induction scheduled during regular business hours or before a upcomming vacation is so much more convenient.  Doctors are people too, with families to see and personal business to do.  It is easy to see how they would be tempted to put the needs of their families before the best interests of their patients when our culture becomes accepting of questionable medicine.

Poor Reasons to Induce:  Included in this category are indications commonly given for induction that are discredited by medical studies discussed in both Pushed and The Business of Being Born.  There is not sufficient medical justification for inducing based on any of these reasons.

  1. The ultrasound technician moves your due date- an ultrasound can accurately determine a due date early on in pregnancy.  Late in pregnancy, an ultrasound technician can only estimate your due date, and can be off by plus or minus 3-4 weeks (Fit Pregnancy, pg. 54).
  2. An ultrasound shows your baby is “measuring” big- although you’d think this would be an exact science, ultrasounds only estimate baby’s weight and can be off by pounds in either direction!  This justification is not supported by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG).  And, what’s more “statistically, fetal size appears to level off after 40 weeks gestation” (Block, pg. 9).
  3. An ultrasound show your amniotic fluid is low – again the ultrasound is only an estimate of your amniotic fluid level.  “Amniotic fluid shifts constantly, with more being produced all the time (Block, pg. 11).  Your doctor should be recommending you drink plenty of fluids and rest, not scheduling an induction (Fit Pregnancy, pg. 54).
  4. Your doctor is leaving town – as much as it helps to have the right caregiver, it doesn’t make sense to increase your chances of c-section by 2-3 times to ensure your doctor will be available (Fit Pregnancy, pg. 54).
  5. You’re 40 weeks pregnant – you are not “overdue” until 42 weeks.  A baby is considered normal, “full-term” if it is born between 38 and 42 weeks (Block, pg. 11).  “In other words, if we were to distribute a large sample of pregnancies along a graph, we’d see a bell curve.  Forty weeks would be the height of the curve, and an equal number of women would give birth before and after… Thus a due date would be expressed more accurately as a ‘due month’” (Block, pg. 11).

Controversial Reasons to Induce:  Included in this category are indications commonly given for induction that are rejected by some doctors and most midwives, but not entirely without reasonable medical support.

  1. You’re 41 or 41.5 weeks pregnant – One large study shows that slightly more stillbirths occur after 41 weeks.  Researches disagree as to the reason why this is so (Block, pg. 11).  If time in the womb is not to blame, than inducing every pregnancy at 41 weeks is foolish for the vast majority of women (pg. 12).  A wise doctor will consider other factors such (fetal nonstress test) and childbirth history, as well as suggesting natural means of encouraging labor, rather than making a beeline for the drugs.
  2. Your bag of waters is broken- Most women go into spontaneous labor within 24 hours of the bag of waters breaking (pg. 13).  But, sometimes labor might not begin for a few days.  During that time, there is concern for infection since the seal has been broken, so to speak.  How does infection make its way up there?  Through vaginal exams.  A study of 5000 women (the largest to date) “found no increase in neonatal infection in (women) that were watched for up to 4 days after rupture.  The vagina is a nearly airtight passageway, so loss of the plug and rupture alone don’t significantly increase the risk of infection…” (pg. 12).  As a matter of course, hospitals insist a baby must be delivered within 24 hours of the waters breaking, which means induction within 6 hours in most cases (Fit Pregnancy, pg. 55).  Midwives disagree with this approach, instead opting to use natural means of induction at this point, while avoiding vaginal examines.
  3. Baby is smaller than normal – while the authors of Your Best Birth state this is a solid reason for inducing, it seems an odd generalization to me (pg. 55).  If you’re still 39 or 40 weeks, maybe you baby needs more time to grow?  Also, remember that ultrasounds only estimate weight and can be off by over a pound in either direction.  Jennifer Block does not address this issue, and neither have I read about it elsewhere.

Solid Reasons to Induce:  Included in this category are indications commonly given for induction that are supported by good reasearch.

  1. You’re 42 weeks pregnant:  the placenta may start to deteriorate after this point, failing to support baby properly with oxygen and nutrients (Fit Pregnancy, pg. 55).
  2. Baby is moving less:  your observations and further testing show baby is moving much less than normal (pg. 55).  Keep in mind that babies do move less as they reach term because they have less room!  But, if baby stops moving at all, you should seek care immediately.
  3. Baby’s heart rate is irregular:  clear irregularities indicate distress and should be treated seriously (pg. 55).
  4. You have signs of Preeclampsia:  spiking blood pressure and protein in the urine indicate preeclampsia (pg. 55).
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First Baby Homebirths on YouTube

Monday, May 17th, 2010

Today I remembered.  I hope you’ll be inspired by these beautiful birth stories of mamas who chose an alternative birth for their first baby. 

October 12, 2009 — Our first baby and we decided to do a water birth at home. It was the best decision we have ever made. This video makes it pretty apparent why.

February 19, 2008 — The home water birth of our first child, a beautiful healthy 9 lb 12 oz. baby boy.

February 10, 2010 — This is a Video of our natural (no painkillers…) water-birth around noon – on Kauai – of my first child last year. I share this personal moment in hope to inspire and empower more woman to chose natural, peaceful birth with our without water.

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“Mom fights, gets the birth she wants” (CNN)

Monday, March 8th, 2010

A few months ago CNN reported on the unusual success story of Joy Scabo, who was denied a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) by her local hospital and managed to have one anyways.  While Joy’s story is a triumph and inspiration, it’s also truly sad that the mother had to relocate 6 hours from home at the end of her pregnancy to have access to a hospital that allows for VBAC. 

Joy gave birth to her baby (7 lbs, 13 oz) on December 5th: “It was such an easy birth,” Szabo said. “I was in the pains of labor for about four or five hours, then I pushed once, and he popped out.”  This was Joy’s fourth childbirth.

The comments online at the CNN article are quite lively.  My favorite observation is that a woman’s “Right to Choose” is fiercely protected in abortion issues but utterly denied when it comes to assessing the risk of VBAC vs. the risk of Cesarean and making that choice.  In one case she is given the right to end life.  In the other case she is not permitted to make a personal judgement on which type of birth is safest for her child.   I hope that in my lifetime a woman’s right to at least attempt natural birth will be returned to her.

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Watch Real Live Births on YouTube

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009

Most women have never seen a real live birth.  Forget the action on A Baby Story (which I admit can be fascinating… though more often quite fear-mongering), I’m talking about a regular, everyday live birth.  Today you don’t have to gain access to your best friend’s birthing room, you can step inside a real birth through mama-made videos on YouTube. 

I just watched a 7 minute video The Nature of Natural Birth and it was incredible.  The video brought home the warm, intimate and downright precious feeling of a home birth, bringing tears to my eyes in no time.  As an added bonus, it contains no shots of labor or birth that you wouldn’t want your little one to see.  The Nature of Natural Birth won second place in Birth Matters Virginia, a recent video contest judged by natural birth advocates Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein, among others.  To view more videos that placed in the contest visit Birth Matters Virginia.

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Unassisted Childbirth

Wednesday, December 9th, 2009

Did you know that perfectly reasonable, well-educated women sometimes choose to give birth at home without the asssistance of a midwife?  For most people, that comes as a shock.  As Americans we immediately associate childbirth with doctor, hospital, charts and monitoring devices.  But, in other parts of the world, it’s so much simpler – midwife-assisted homebirth is the norm. 

Here in America, it is not uncommen for a woman with an uncomplicated pregnancy to struggle to find a midwife to assist her birth.  Midwives can be expensive and are rarely covered by health insurance.  Other obstacles include proximity, personality conflicts and even midwives that are too booked with other births to offer service.  When a heavily monitored, high-intervention hospital birth is her only option for medical assistance, she may decide for the freedom of a homebirth on her own terms.  If she’s had a c-section before, unassisted childbirth (UC) may be her ONLY option for a normal birth.  Other women choose to UC out of their desire for intimacy and ownership in the birth process.  It’s her birth, her baby and her home.

The idea came as a shock to me at first.  But, after some reflection, I can really see where these women are coming from.  Birth is such a natural process.  Especially after having one or more natural birth in a supportive, encouraging environment (as I’ve been blessed to experience), a woman begins to trust birth.  It’s not so complicated, really.  A health body, a supportive team of adults, lots of planning ahead and self-education…  If I was in a tight spot, I would consider UC too. 

If the idea of UC seems completely crazy to you, take a moment to read the birth of Ella Raine.  For a huge list of planned unassisted birth stories (some of which turned out differently) go here.  To learn more about UC, hop on over to Mothering.com’s Unassisted Childbirth board.  You’ll find helpful threads on common issues, including:

Does unassisted childbrith equal unassisted pregnancy?

What to know to prepare for a UC

Preparing children for an UC

Unassisted Birth Resources

The mamas on Mothering.com are very happy to share their experiences and advice with other moms.  Many of them do receive OB care during their pregnancies, simply keeping their plan for UC a secret.  They do an immense amount of self-education in preparation and stock up on birth supplies.  Usually a husband or good friend provides labor support, though some also hire a doula.  I am impressed and inspired by these women who go to such great lengths to do what they feel is best for themselves and their baby.

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Is the Birth Plan a Joke?

Tuesday, October 27th, 2009

Is the Birth Plan a joke?  Certainly not to the women that create them, but what about to the nurses and doctors who provide your care? 

I love the idea of a birth plan - carefully considering your options, realizing the possibilities and clearly communicating your choices.  But does it actually translate to your birth experience?  Jennifer Block, author of Pushed: The Painful Truth about Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care, reports that hospital staff often snicker at birth plans.  “A labor and delivery nurse in Minnesota told me, ‘We have a running joke, it’s like ‘uh oh, they have a birth plan, prep the OR’” (Block, pg. 163).  The fact is, many of the options on any given birth plan may not really be available at your hospital.  Shortages of nursing staff, today’s malpractice climate and prevalent attitudes among hospital staff can put a serious damper in your dream plan.

Here is a very sobering quote from Judith Lothian, chair of Lamaze’s International Certification Council, “It’s an illusion… No matter what anybody tells you in prenatal classes, or what your friends say, or what you read in books, the bottom line is, you will follow the rules of the hospital, and you will do what your doctor wants you to do.  No matter what you think going into it.  Sometimes I say your choices are very limited, but in point of fact, I don’t think women have any choices” (pg. 166). 

Yikes.  I hope that’s not true for most of us, but I’m convinced it is true at some hospitals.  What’s clear is that women want choices.  Women want control.  What will it take to get it back? 

Read more about Birth Plans and real mom experiences in Emily Jones’ excellent article “The Birth Plan Trap” on TrueBirth.com.

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Pain with a Purpose: Benefits of the Natural Labor Process

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

How will you manage labor pain?  Are epidurals safe?  Are scheduled c-sections as safe as spontaneous vaginal birth?  American pregnant women ask these questions everyday… and get different answers.  In all the clamour to define the risks and benefits of such medical solutions to the challenge of labor pain, very few take the time to consider that the normal labor process may actually have some benefits. 

In Pushed: The Painful Truth about Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care auth0r Jennifer Block highlights several positives unique to a spontaneous vaginal birth:  “the conditioning of the fetal lungs, the priming of the breastfeeding relationship, the infusion of the ‘love hormone,’ the physical proximity of mother and baby.”  Let’s look at the positive side of natural birth, shall we?

Babies Can Breathe 

Scientists still don’t understand how spontaneous birth is initiated, but they do know that the baby and the mother’s body communicate, almost “agreeing” when it is time.  Michel Odent, a scientist who’s dedicated to studying the natural labor process, explains “the baby gives a signal when its lungs are mature.  For a baby to be born it implies that the lungs are ready, because to be born is to breathe.  When you induce labor, or when you do an elective cesarean section with no labor, the baby has not given the signal” (Block, pg. 140).  One clear benefit of spontaneous normal birth is that baby is ready – truly full term.  Remember, there is a significant margin of error in setting a “due date” (which should really be considered a “due month”).  Baby is the expert on when to be born.

Spontaneous vaginal birth offers another breathing benefit.  In the womb, baby’s lungs are filled with fluid.  How do those lungs switch from water-filled to air-filled?  Gradually.  The baby “begins purging its lungs of fluid in the days prior to birth….the process continues during spontaneous labor and birth.  Hormones are released that prime the lungs for air, and the squeezing effect of the birth canal helps purge the lungs of excess fluid” (pg. 140).  Cesarean babies often have trouble breathing, requiring heavy suctioning and intubation (pg. 140).

Babies Can Breastfeed

Breastfeeding is an “extremely time-sensitive relationship” concur countless studies and even the CDC (pg. 141).  The sooner a newly born baby can be put to the breast, the better chance for a successful breastfeeding relationship.  If the newborn is struggling to breathe, breastfeeding is delayed.  More cesarean-born babies are put in the NICU, another common breastfeeding challenge.  What’s more, suctioning and intubating irritate baby’s mouth and throat making feeding uncomfortable and discouraging. 

The very pain of childbirth plays a part in breastfeeding success.  How?  It’s the endorphin-prolactin connection.  “Endorphins, natural opiates that are also secreted during sex, reach peak levels during birth and are responsible for the altered state of consciousness that women often describe toward the end of labor – a reproductive version of the ‘runner’s high.’  The endorphins stimulate release of prolactin, which is central to breastfeeding” (pg. 172).  No pain, no endorphins.  No endorphins no prolactin.  No prolactin, uh-oh breastfeeding.  “The endorphin-prolactin connection may explain recent data suggesting that epidurals hamper breastfeeding” says Odent (pg. 173).  Is it so surprising that a woman’s ability to breastfeed is tied to her experience of birth?  The two are designed to go hand in hand.

Babies can Bond

This last benefit is really more for the mother than for the baby, but no one would deny that baby benefits.  And here’s the bottom line:  natural, spontaneous labor includes the release of the “love hormone” in mama and the opportunity for immediate, skin to skin contact between mama and baby at birth.  These are the makings of a beautiful bond.

Oxytocin is the “love hormone”.  “In addition to its star role of contracting the uterus during labor and birth, oxytocin is the hormone secreted, in both men and women, during the ecstasy of orgasm, the feeling of emotional connection with a friend, the rush of being in love, and the literal rush of milk to a suckling infant” (pg. 135).  Oxytocin is a potent hormone that plays a pivotal role to our emotional well-being.  But, when mama is induced, artificial oxytocin called Pitocin is used to force labor.  Problem is Pitocin doesn’t make it’s way to the brain to encourage an emotional response to birth (pg. 135).  This synthetic version of oxytocin is essentially incomplete because it doesn’t cross the blood-brain barrier.  In fact, it actually works against the body, signally it to stop producing oxytocin.  So, mama’s got no “love hormone”, she’s tied down to a bed, disconnected from the birth with a numbing epidural or c-section and watching it all like a spectator.  Do we wonder why mothers today report difficulty with bonding?

Author Jennifer Block shares the story of Michelle McSweeny, a woman who was reluctantly induced and eventually sectioned.  Michelle felt manipulated and overpowered by her experience, but her biggest regret was “the initial inability to bond with or care for her daughter.  ‘The saddest thing of all was that when the baby came out and they held her up for me, I didn’t cry or feel that joy that you’re supposed to feel.  And I’m an emotional person.  I didn’t have that moment of ecstasy.  I was so out of it… I couldn’t breastfeed right away.  My arms barely worked.  I couldn’t pick the baby up if she was crying’” (pg. 144). 

Pain = Gain for Mama & Baby

Liam newbornLabor is painful.  I’ve given birth naturally - twice - both times at home with a  midwife.  The first time I was unsure and inexperienced.  Pushing took longer than I expected and to say I felt “desperate” towards the end would be an understatement.  I only briefing held my daughter at birth because my significant loss of blood required attention.  Even so, I experienced immediate bonding with my child, who breathed and suckled easily. 

My second birth was decidedly different.  It was beautiful.  I felt so supported, so sure of my strength, so completely “high”.  That experience, the extended ecstasy of a completed, natural, joyful birth is worth all the pain I experienced, several times over.  I know I owe my physical and emotional health and that of my child’s to my dedication to following nature’s path.  I encourage you to hold onto what you know to be true.  Trust your body’s wisdom and birth your baby in good time.

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VBAC or Repeat Cesarean – What’s Best?

Tuesday, October 6th, 2009

VBAC stands for “vaginal birth after cesarean”.  “Once a cesarean, always a cesarean” was the motto until a tipping point was reached in the early 80′s.  Women wanted VBAC and evidence was showing that it was safe, or at least safer than having another cesarean, according to Jennifer Block’s Pushed: The Painful Truth about Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care .  VBAC rates went up until in 1996 one new study and some high-profile lawsuits gave VBAC bad press (Block, pg. 87).  Since then, new studies have shown again that VBAC can be safer than cesarean, yet most doctors don’t give women the opportunity to try it. 

Why? Because a doctor is much more likely to be taken to court for a VBAC gone wrong rather than a cesarean gone wrong.  It’s liability issues trumping best-practices once again.  Talk about a double standard and women having a right to choose!  “Women must sign a dedicated consent form to have a VBAC, but there is no such a thing for a second, third, or subsequent cesarean, which carry risks of equal or greater magnitude (pg. 91). 

If you’ve had a cesarean and are considering birth options for baby #2, consider this risk-benefit analysis of VBAC verses repeat cesarean offered by Jennifer Block based on her extensive (and unbiased) research: 

“If you are a woman attempting a VBAC, you have around a 75% chance of delivering vaginally and avoiding another major surgery and at least a 99.5% chance of not suffering a uterine rupture.  If you choose a repeat cesarean, you have a 99.8% chance of not suffering a uterine rupture (it can still happen) and a 100% chance of having another major surgery, with all the risks and drawbacks that entails.  These include longer hospital stay; longer and more painful recovery; higher risk of infection, organ damage, adhesions, hemorrhage, embolism, and hysterectomy; more blood loss; higher chance of rehospitalization; higher chance of complication with the next pregnancy; less initial contact with the baby; less success breastfeeding; higher risk of respiratory problems for the baby; and twice the risk of the most catasrophic complication of all:  maternal death (pg. 90).

If you’d like to plan for VBAC but are having trouble finding a supportive caregiver, contact ICAN.  ICAN is a network of online and local support groups that will help you find an option for VBAC.

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Elective Cesareans are NOT Safe for Baby

Thursday, October 1st, 2009

“A CDC researcher’s 2006 study of 5.7 million U.S. births found that infants born by cesarean with no medical risk factors were nearly three times more likely to die within the first month of life than those born vaginally” (Pushed: The Painful Truth about Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care, Jennifer Block, pg. 49). 

csectionAnd, that pretty much sums it up.  This study didn’t report that just any baby born by c-section is more likely to die, it revealed that babies born by elective c-section (“with no medical risk factors”) are almost 3 times more likely to die within a month of birth.  If you thought that choosing to deliver by c-section only put yourself at risk, think again. 

But it does put your life at risk too.  A mother is 4 times more likely to die after a cesarean, as opposed to a vaginal birth, according to a 2000 study, also cited in Jennifer’s excellent book (pg. xxv).   

The World Health Organization has determined that in a developed country, the c-section rate should not exceed 15% (pg. 49).  How do they get this number?  They look at the data and weigh the risks of cesarean against the lives and health saved by the surgery.  In America, the rate of c-section is about 33%.

Why so many c-sections?  It’s not just because of elective choice.  Unnecessary c-sections happen daily in order to protect hospitals and doctors from lawsuits.  Two-thirds of all American c-sections are unplanned and initiated during labor (pg. 58).  Jennifer Block, who studied the rate and cause of c-section in several large and small hospitals across the nation,  shares two main contributors to unnecessary c-sections:

  • “The strongest predictor of surgical delivery is not health status or age, but where and with whom a woman gets care” (pg. 58).  Find a midwife, OB, birth center or hospital with a LOW rate of c-section. That’s the best thing you can do to protect you and your baby.
  • Demand intermittant, personal fetal monitoring, not the Electronic Fetal Monitor (EFM).  “Nearly every doctor I talk to acknowledges that the monitors [EFM] only increase the chance of a cesarean but are required by the hospital for its legal protection…” (pg. 64). 
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The Unmedicated Hospital Birth?

Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009

What is it like to give birth in an American hospital?  Birth plans and doulas aside, how will you feel and how will things go when the time arrives?  For pregnant mamas-to-be who are aiming for a natural, unmedicated birth, will you succeed in reaching that goal?

fetalmonitor“Michelle McSweeney in New York City had originally wanted an unmedicated birth but gave in to an epidural because ‘I couldn’t get up anyway,’ she recalls.  ‘I’ve got these belts around my gigantic stomach, I’ve got a catheter, I’ve got a thing on my finger, I’ve got an IV in my arm.  I felt like a science project.’”  With this vignette author Jennifer Block closes her discussion of “The Machine” (aka the electronic fetal monitor) in her book Pushed: The Painful Truth about Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care (pg. 35-36).

Michelle McSweeney’s simple confession reveals the heart of the matter – whatever your intentions the hospital has a way of making you feel like a thing, not a person.  Women are left alone in a room, confined to their beds not with straps, but with multiple electronic devices designed to do the job of an actual birth attendant.  Routine IV’s, electronic fetal monitoring (EFM), and catheters are not indicated by medicine, nor are they part of routine maternity care in many other developed nations.  In sharp contrast, “The World Health Organization recommends intermittent monitoring with either a fetoscope or a handheld Doppler ultrasound, a rechargeable cordless device that allows the laboring woman freedom of movement” (pg 35). 

After reading Michelle’s vignette I understood, really for the first time, why friends of mine who had planned unmedicated births had instead chosen an epidural when faced with labor in a hospital.  Dehumanized, a cog in the machine, the laboring woman is faced with the decision to pursue something natural and good in an environment simply not designed to support it.  Besides the additional health risks, how is an epidural very different from what she’s already subjected herself to?

  • She is already separated from her labor – the nurse, even her partner, look to “The Machine” to observe how labor is progressing.  If more information is desired, she receives another vaginal exam.  The doctor might visit her to tell her how she is doing.   What does she know about it?
  • She is already immobilized – if she wants to walk, she must get permission to take off the EFM belt and someone needs to push along the IV poll as she strolls the hospital corridors. Discouraged, she simply attempts to stay active in her room.  But, the nurse cannot return constantly to adjust the EFM belt, which is disturbed by her motions.  Back in bed. 
  • She is already birthing on their terms – they tell her what she may drink (ice chips), what she may eat (nothing), what she must wear and where she can be.  She feels unspoken pressure to not be too loud, ask too much or take too long.  She may discover that the nurse has not even read her birth plan, and cannot possibly do so because she is truly too busy. 

I had read when pregnant with my first baby about how hard it is for a woman to give birth naturally in the hospital.  I heard from mother after mother that she would do things differently next time.  Some suggested hanging a sign on the door “Do not offer an Epidural.”  But, most said that if I wanted a natural birth I should find somewhere else to have one.  I can see now how little that sign would have accomplished. 

It doesn’t have to be like that.  It isn’t like that in countless other parts of the world.  Imagine instead that you are supported by the constant presence of an expert birth assitant.  She knows you because she’s spent an hour with you every month (and more often that that lately) for your prenatal appointments.  Of course she knows your birth plan!  She also knows what scares you about labor.  She knows your back-up plan.  She’s not surprised when you play Norah Jones.  She doesn’t care that you aren’t wearing a hospital gown.  She reminds you of ideas  you’ve discussed for managing labor pain when you’re brain’s too foggy to think.  In fact, she’s joined by a doula with whom she works regularly and whose hands know exactly how to apply effective counter-pressure.    When you ask her to check on your progress, she does a vaginal exam while you’re resting between contractions.  When your progress slows, she doesn’t threaten you with Pitocin.  When you want to move, she moves too so she can listen to baby without slowing you down.  She has an underwater doppler so you can labor in the tub and when you push the baby out in the birth tub, she’s as estatic as you are!  Congratulations, mama, you did beautifully, and you did this yourself!  Hold your baby, nurse your baby, the rest of us can wait.

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